I once was called at the LAST MINUTE to run lights for a show and when I got there, I was also informed I was running sound as well - some cues of which were simultaneous.  Well this was just a couple days BEFORE the show opened. One snippy little actress diva, made a smart-ass remark "waiting" for a light cue which I was late in delivering because I was doing two things at the same time.  I blew my stack.  The director (who by the way BEGGED me to do this job) asked me not to talk to "her actors" that way (whichever way it was I talked to them - actually I told this actress she'd get her light cue when I felt like it IF I felt like it or not and to do her job and leave my job to me).  I told her if she pissed me off she'd be in the dark.  DISRESPECT to me - but I guess I was a hot head in response.  So I'm as guilty I guess.

Here is something that I have learned over the years, and it goes for people infront of the lights as well as those who work behind, whatever you do someone is going to feel disrespected.  You can't avoid it.  If we are looking for thank yous, we are doing the wrong thing with our time.  Sometimes mistakes are just that.  I work in "Corrections" and the last program said I worked in "Collections".  I wasn't disrespected, it was a mistake.  There will always be people who aren't very nice (believe me I'm one of them).  Just don't work with them or accept it as a minor wrinkle in an otherwise enjoyable pastime.  As Patrick Swayze said in Roadhouse "Be nice until it's time not to be nice."

Disrespect:  Actors showing up late to Rehearsal

Well, there seem to be a few common threads.  People do care about their names being correct, as well as a correct acknowledgement of what they did in the show.  I think most of us are understanding if someone tries to get names spelled correctly rather than they just didn't try.

To avoid misspellings and unintentional omissions in our programs, we always print up a single "dummy" copy first and place it at a dress rehearsal where we know all the company will be participating.

It gets passed around from person to person, actor, crew members, designers, etc. with a red felt-tip pen attached. Each person is asked to proof-read their OWN name, character, position or what-have-you and if it's correct, simply mark "OK" with a dash pointing to their name.

If there's a mistake, circle it and write the correction LEGIBLY.

Also, if anybody has been left out, there's a blank space them to be written in or individuals who needed to be thanked -- if there's room to do so.   This way nobody is left out and everybody feels respected.

Then the marked up mess is sent back to our infinitely patient printer-person who tries to decipher all the chicken-scratches and print up the genuine program.

This has almost eliminated the spelling/omission problem. Of course, there are still complaints as we can't accommodate every whim and some limitations are made for clarity or space ("Yes, I know you're playing a soldier in Act III, but he has no lines and you're also playing the Duke in Act I so that's how you will be credited in the program.")